Erotic Manipulation

The strength and force which you can exert to arouse sexual desire in your husband is your erotic power. It is your capacity to exercise control over your husband through his sexual desire for you. It is your femininity unleashed against boredom and familiarity in marriage. Erotic power is the unrestrained exploitation of his sexual desires and fantasies toward your personal goals. Erotic power is the unihibited expression of your femininity.

Erotic power will become the focal point of your renewed marital relationship. This is not to say that it is a substitute for love. On the contrary, it will become for both of you a new and powerful expression of your love for one another. Erotic power will shape and transform your marriage. Your love for him remains certain and unconditional as before. It is romance only which becomes uncertain and conditional. It is important to distinguish the two.

To understand erotic power you must appreciate the essential difference in female and male sexuality. Whereas most couples pay only lip service to their differences, wives who exercise erotic power tap directly into it. As noted before, male sexuality is oriented on the chase. Like a thoroughbred horse which enjoys nothing more than a hard run, the typical male enjoys nothing more than the pursuit of a woman for sex. The more challenging the pursuit, the more exciting and determined the chase. You, on the other hand, will appreciate his new attention and energy in pursuit of you.

Exercising erotic power is as simple as placing hurdles for your husband to overcome in your sexual relationship. For example, you might require that your husband wash the dishes before sex. Of course, its great that he does the dishes. But that is not the point. The point is that he will be excited by the challenge you have put in front of him and you will be excited by his efforts to overcome that challenge.

Erotic power is irresistibly effective because it is subversive of the male ego and defense behaviors. Simply put, he will not know how to resist you. Indeed, it may never occur to him to do so!

Erotic power provides the male ego with an excuse for giving in to you. Instead of arousing his urge to fight, you are arousing his urge to surrender. When you exercise power over your husband erotically your husband will not recognize this as a challenge to his ego. Instead, he will rationalize that your power over him is of such a nature that it is understood that males are not expected to resist.

For example, many men regard doing the housework as a woman's chore and therefore resist accepting this chore and even if he accepts the chore he will regard it as a sacrifice and a favor to you. But if you put your demand in the context of erotic power then his feelings about it will be entirely different. He will be thinking about his goals and your touch, not the "indignity" of the chore or the "sacrifice" to your demand.

How far you take your erotic power will be entirely up to you. But you are very unlikely to encounter substantial resistence from your husband. The limits of your erotic power are, instead, those that you impose upon yourself. For many wives the main difficulty is getting comfortable with their own erotic power. Because of social taboos regarding the exercise of power in relationships in general and marriage in particular it can be difficult for some wives to become comfortable with their erotic power. Add to that the taboos surounding sex and you can see why this is such a misunderstood and underappreciated marital secret.

Make no mistake about it: erotic power is extremely manipulative. To wield erotic power you must overcome your own inhibitions.

The converse of your erotic power is your husband's submission to you. As you wield your erotic power over your husband he will yield and surrender himself to your will and authority. It is in his submission to you that he is once again in a position of challenge and pursuit.

You will find that this new relationship goes far beyond the courtship that you experienced when dating. By virtue of the intimacy of your marriage, your familiarity with one another, and your shared lives, you can establish a deep and close relationship with your husband that could never exist outside of marriage.

Why would any husband willingly submit to his wife? Why don't husbands resist? Some do, in fact, but only a very small percentage. If your marriage is like most you will find that your husband will become addicted to your erotic power in very short order. If resistence is offered at all it will consist merely of token rebellions from time to time for the sake of his ego and to test your resolve and seriousness. In actuality, he will enjoy this as much as you do and he would be extremely disappointed if you were to back away from your new expectations of him.

Of course, not all men are alike and you will need to experiment with your erotic power to learn what works best for your marriage.

Your husband will discover an incredible joy and happiness in his submission to your erotic power. Erotic power taps a deep and primal nerve in the male psychology. Once you learn how to tap that nerve you will have him forever wrapped around your finger.